Friday, December 27, 2019

Hot water to bathe


The room is large, comfortable, anonymous, the big plush bed looks inviting with its white sheets and huge pillows. A huge bed all to myself for the next few nights! The prospect is extremely appealing. 

I draw the curtains and close out the view of Beijing, its grey buildings looming, vehicles shooting by.

I place my computer, papers and books on the table, slip off my shoes, unzip my dress. Everyone was pretty happy with my workshop.  I move into the bathroom, turn the taps  and draw the bath.  I remove my pearls and tie my hair up, only to discover this bath is just warm and the hot tap is a warm tap. 

I sigh, fetch the kettle from the other room, and start to fill it. Jug after jug of boiling water I pour in, watching the steam rise each time. In between I read my book, trying not to get it wet, but something in my memory stirs.

I am taken back to the concrete building in Baguo, concrete walls, roof and floor. A small window from the bathroom to the outside, a small lamp to supplement the little natural light. Naty has boiled a third pot over the stove. She takes it into the bathroom and steam rises as she pours it into the big plastic bucket of warm water she is preparing for me. 

I sit on a chair in the kitchen watching. I feel like death. My hair is matted, my face is red and round and peeling off, I can barely move and my stomach is waiting for the next unusual smell to unleash its bile and gin contents. The family around me yabbers away in Tagalog. Matilda plays with the children in the dirt just outside the front steps.

After another two pots of hot water I wander into the bathroom and sit on the floor. I pour a small bowl of water over myself, my hair, face, cover myself in shampoo and soap and scrub with all my strength. I pour several small bowls over myself to wash it all off. Immediately I feel a little better. I hear the sound of children through the small window. I brush my teeth, squeeze all the water from my hair and take the thin threadbare dry towel from the wall to dry myself. Naty has picked my underwear and clothes for the day and I put them on.

Naty comes back to check on me. The bucket of water is still half full. She takes a mouthful of her coffee, fills the pot in the kitchen, turns on the stove and prepares for the next bath. I sit down in my chair again in silence, now fully dressed. Someone passes me a comb and I hold it in my hand for a while before putting it down. Naty hands me a coffee which I shoo away.

I go back into the room the family has vacated for Matilda and me, rustle around in my bag. I find the half empty bottle and take a swig, eyes watering as the sickly sweet chemical taste washes into my mouth in the few seconds before the warmth spreads through my veins. I will my belly to accept it, not throw up. I take a few deep mouthfuls, open my throat and start to feel normal again. I check the other bottle in my bag, it is still there, ¾ full, everything is going to be ok.  I put on sunglasses and wander outside clutching the bottle, sit on the door step and start to think about combing my hair.
I smile at Matilda and she looks unsure and a little sad, wondering where her mum has gone and if she is every coming back.

The family looks at me from time to time, some warily, others expectantly, wondering what behavior will come next, or if, ideally, this will be one of the days where I am quiet and pass out, don’t cause any trouble.  The kind 20 yearold girl, the one they say is retarded, smiles at me. Yesterday she gave me an orange, seeing that I could not eat pig with the family and wretched at the sight of it. She goes to the store to fetch my gin and orange juice each day on this terrible, disastrous trip.

Please madam, please stop this while you are here
The thing is Naty,  I would love to, but its actually really dangerous to just stop. You get seizures and can die. I need to go back to hospital.

She knows I am sick and the sympathy is giving way to disgust.

Back in the present moment in the sparkling room at the top of Beijing I think  the temperature is almost right. I take the kettle and pour the last  boiling water in, watch the steam rise, return it to its nest. I slide into my hot bath and remember the family in that concrete house, both watching me expectantly, wondering what behavior would come next, if I was going to comb my hair, and giving me a wide berth. The memory is not comfortable but I am grateful to have turned life around.