Front up as a Mother please!!! You put the violent crazy child's needs before the younger innocent one's and now I am the one in and out of hospital.
Just spoke to you. Thanks
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On 13 Jan 2017, at 3:23 AM, Caitlin Kelly <ochlinca@hotmail.com> wrote:Yu haven't answered any of the below.
I m carrying all the pain, I am the addict in and out of hospital wrecking havoc on my own family.
What is the solution here?
'Tim Kelly is dead, Patrick is fine and your alcoholism is apparently fine but for the odd fall where you are incapacitated for a while.
I was the youngest child, i bore no blame, I was the one to call the neighbours and the police all the time and yet I am the one living with the consequences now. GIVE ME AN ANSWER TO THAT.
From: Eileen Kelly <eileenkelly133@icloud.com>
Sent: Thursday, 12 January 2017 3:31 PM
To: Caitlin Kelly
Subject: Re: After the Friday INCIDENT is everything ok with u and Jason.
I love you
It took till 2016 to say that. I've never had anything like emotion inside me.
Mm made a difference to me. She opened me up to a brand new life.
I've shocked myself by knowing that I can love again
I'm always on your side. That's what I said to kids at school. I'm not the enemy
Let's work stuff out together. If u think I'm on " your side " u see it differently.
I know this is a hard time for u just because " I know from intuition or 6 th sense"
Yes ,life is tough.
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> On 13 Jan 2017, at 2:18 AM, Caitlin Kelly <ochlinca@hotmail.com> wrote:
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> Let's call a spade a spade. I'm the one that walked out damaged. You walked scared and with physical injuries and not willing to consider men or marriage again.
I think Patrick walked out bearing shame and emotional scares and humiliation after beating his mother up many times breaking her wrists and ribs and his own burden. He has somehow processed this with the love of Paula and Isabella and his own babies. In a slightly different version of events he would have a criminal record after breaking his mothers ribs and wrists and never practice law.
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> As a result of family violence i walk in and out of mental hospitals and rehabs. I create unsafety everywhere and recreate fear and danger in every home I have had since I left ours. Each time I see a specialist or check in somewhere they ask about my family or origin and what went on. You were a brilliant Mother but the fear and shame i lived with all those years had an impact on me. To be clear it's not Tim Kelly, it's the violence in the 90s from my Brother which brings me shame and fear. Its the violence I lived with, remember, and had the task of hiding, lying about.
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> My parter is within a knives edge of leaving and I am planning for
> Matilda, where she go when he leaves. I want her to live with Mady Hetherton or maybe Patrick and Isabella.
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> None of this was your fault but you somehow massively neglected to consider that any of it had any impact on me. I was an innocent kid.
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> You had your own difficulties but you made choices, I feel like no one made choices for me. Im confused because I think our grandparents knew - and they loved me - so I don't understand why they didn't take me in or something. I did not deserve to be in that environment any more than you but I had no option:
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> Too late now for self pity and I'm doing what I can to repair stuff with my Brother because I do forgive him sort of, but Tim Kelly is dead and you need to acknowledge the damage you did to did to me those years ivy allowing the violence in that frightening House.
> I'll spend a good portion of my life in therapy about it because despite my beautiful upbringing, childhood is supposed to be safe and Mine was terrifying, I remember feeling relief that Kerry and john could hear through the walls. You were an adult. you were stronger than me but I was terrified , all the time
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> I'm asking you to front up and be a Mother and accept responsibility. It's not your fault that i am a dysfunctional alcoholic, but it's not unrelated. I want the cycle to stop here.
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> You did your best, I get that, I think you saved your son which is pretty amazing, he was in a high risk category. You just sort of forgot about the other one.
We don't want our Daughter and to turn out like me, a child of fear defence and trauma. I don't want to tell Jason what went on in our home for all of those years because I feel a huge about of shame and I don't want anyone to hate my brother because he was sick and hurt himself.
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> I love you forever but please never ever email jason again.
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> I'm going to need you to step up And be on my side from now on.
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>> On 12 Jan 2017, at 2:14 PM, Eileen Kellyuour <eileenkelly133@icloud.com> wrote:
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>> Sounds pretty scary for me.
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The past is the past. We were all affected.
You have to cope with how you will manage from NOW.
Just concentrate on Matilda. She's your way forward.
Can you find a counsellor or a best friend to talk to.
Wendie is having a nap upstairs. She gets up very early.
We went to Mamak for lunch.
You have to cope with how you will manage from NOW.
Just concentrate on Matilda. She's your way forward.
Can you find a counsellor or a best friend to talk to.
Wendie is having a nap upstairs. She gets up very early.
We went to Mamak for lunch.